Had a visit from ZenTiger the other day. Interesting comment! I have to say, I can relate. I do a LOT of reading, a LOT of family stuff (but not so much blogging of late). Have a look at New Zealand Conservative. I’m impressed by people who can write about political issues. I follow what’s going on, but I’m in no way knowledgeable or erudite enough to blog about it. I suppose I am one of the silent suffering majority who is regularly screwed over by the system but feels helpless to do anything about it. My other half is passionate about politics and we have slightly differing viewpoints on some things. Perhaps I will ask him to ‘guest-blog’! So anyway, nice to ‘read’ you ZenTiger 
I have to congratulate one of my clients, who after coaching was able to apply for – and get – the job of her dreams. I am delighted for her! She absolutely deserves all the rewards that are coming her way. We went through a process to get there, but it was all her hard work and introspection that did it. I just asked the questions So she’s going through a lot of changes, but she’s dealing with it all smoothly so I am rapt
Finally I have recent experience with someone who is learning the hard way that it is very important to communicate with children. Don’t assume that you know what is going on.
It is far too late when they are 16 to decide you want to sit down for lovely heart-to-hearts with them.
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Thanks for the kind words.
Good communication is important, and this is founded on mutual respect for differing opinions.
To foster communication, people need to feel they will be listened and not judged.
Once you can find that environment, then it can be great to put out opinions and have them challenged, and take input as an opportunity to learn.
I’m not always clear on my opinions, so throwing them on the blog will soon garner a few alternative views. There’s been a couple of times that this has caused me to alter my initial stance. (I’m also not suggesting a blog is a good place for “listen, don’t judge”. With most blogs, quite the reverse
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Although, I have no idea why I feel I need to say any of this on a life coaching blog.
Comment by ZenTiger May 1, 2008 @ 10:14 pmEewww! That comment was rather dull. My apologies. And I’m now wondering if there needs to be a limit to those cheesy grins per comment.
I’m definitely going to cut back on those
Comment by ZenTiger May 1, 2008 @ 10:19 pmYou know what, I thought it was a great comment. No! don’t cut back on the smilies, I like ‘em. You’re quite right in everything you said. The ‘not judging’ thing is so important. I am most likely NOT to talk if I think the person will slag me, especially about the personal stuff. With most things I don’t have a problem saying ‘I don’t know.’ I’m happy to go off and research things, or ask another person. But the personal stuff is way harder. This is partly the reason I started the blog – people can be anonymous, they can ask questions via email or on messenger, or they can ask me to write an article on something they’re wondering about.
Comment by newzealandcoach May 2, 2008 @ 7:52 amI appreciate your comment, thanks for reading
ey there..i found your topics interesting! mind if i can add you in my blogroll? let me know
Comment by dakilang islander May 4, 2008 @ 1:24 amthanks!