…grab one.
Write your name in the middle, then draw lines to dissect the page into four. The left is your past, the right is your future.
The sections at the top are for the positive things, the sections at the bottom are for the negative.
It might be easier to start with the left hand side. Important birthdays, when you started work, when you had kids (if any) … marriage(s), relationships that made an impact on you …. all those important milestones.
At the right, write your dreams, aspirations and ambitions. This can be as creative as you like. You might be surprised at what comes out onto the page. You can use the bottom section to write your fears …. that’s usually pretty interesting as well. Sometimes things are less scary, or downright improbable when you see them in writing.
You can use pictures, or draw them. You can use sparkly pens or glitter or anything. Lots of colour, lots of ideas.
I’d be really interested to know how you get on with this exercise. Add me : coachdawn_newzealand on yahoo messenger.
Had a visit from ZenTiger the other day. Interesting comment! I have to say, I can relate. I do a LOT of reading, a LOT of family stuff (but not so much blogging of late). Have a look at New Zealand Conservative. I’m impressed by people who can write about political issues. I follow what’s going on, but I’m in no way knowledgeable or erudite enough to blog about it. I suppose I am one of the silent suffering majority who is regularly screwed over by the system but feels helpless to do anything about it. My other half is passionate about politics and we have slightly differing viewpoints on some things. Perhaps I will ask him to ‘guest-blog’! So anyway, nice to ‘read’ you ZenTiger 
I have to congratulate one of my clients, who after coaching was able to apply for – and get – the job of her dreams. I am delighted for her! She absolutely deserves all the rewards that are coming her way. We went through a process to get there, but it was all her hard work and introspection that did it. I just asked the questions So she’s going through a lot of changes, but she’s dealing with it all smoothly so I am rapt
Finally I have recent experience with someone who is learning the hard way that it is very important to communicate with children. Don’t assume that you know what is going on.
It is far too late when they are 16 to decide you want to sit down for lovely heart-to-hearts with them.
Sometimes you have to make a stand.
A lot of us put up with things we don’t agree with. We want to keep our job, we want to live in a peaceful house, we don’t like anger or aggression or stress. So we keep on going to work, we learn to say nothing when we know something is wrong. We keep our thoughts to ourselves and we go on with our lives.
This can either be really stressful (and sometimes lead to a BIG explosion!), or make us feel depressed, resentful, or hopeless. What are the things that are really important to you, the things you won’t (or shouldn’t have to) compromise on?
When you come to coaching, we will find out what your basic values are. If you try by yourself to work this out, you can go around in circles. It’s confusing and frustrating. But once you know what your values are, you’ll see your life in much clearer terms. Everyone’s values are different, and that’s fine. They can be a product of your upbringing, or the life path you’ve been walking down. They can even be a product of what you’ve seen and experienced that you don’t agree with.
Some things that people put up with would be unbearable to me. Some things that I think are really important, might be immaterial to you.
Discovering your values can make a huge difference in your life. I have worked with people just on their values. Coaching doesn’t mean you have to have 12 sessions, or a years worth.
Sometimes just one visit can make things so much clearer to you.
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